Jan 10 2018

Confessions of A Confused Blogger

It’s been nearly a year since my last post. I’m not sure exactly how to start blogging again other than to just do it. Truth is, although I desperately missed (aspects of) my blogging hobby, turns out I was a very confused blogger. Blogger. I started to hate strongly dislike that word. I mean what is a blogger, really? Dictionary.com claims a blogger is “a person who regularly writes material for a blog”. Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it?

As I approached my third year of doing just that, however, I realized that I actually wasn’t really sure what blogging was anymore. I have a website and I write about “whatever” to people who may be slightly interested (or at least temporarily curious) about what I have to say about a given subject. Does that make me a blogger? If I write crap that no one ever reads, am I still a blogger? Or, with one born every minute these days, do I have to be deemed moderately successful, making this a career (i.e. making money) in order to call myself a real blogger?


Confused Blogger


When I launched my first and original website, Beauty Isles, I thought of it as a fun way to talk about something I really enjoyed: makeup, skincare and beauty. No, really. I’m not just saying that because it’s the thing you have to say. Otherwise, we’d all seem like egomaniacs, right? And blogging was fun. Alot of fun. Until it wasn’t.

A couple of things happened all at once to turn me away from something I once enjoyed. For starters, my personal life changed drastically when my husband and I had a baby. She’s absolutely fantastic, by the way, and our everyday joy. At the same time, perhaps because my mind was focused on motherhood rather than makeup, I began experiencing “beauty blogger fatigue”. The “beauty blogger” market was already saturated when I began blogging in 2014. Been on YouTube, lately? Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that so many people wanted to use this platform to connect with others. But let’s be real, how many reviews of the same highlighter can you read before you just shut down?

Over saturation aside, while I continued to enjoy the beauty community and the world of skincare/makeup, I had to be honest with myself. I wasn’t passionate about it anymore. So, I just disappeared. My bad. I didn’t been to bail on you guys. I just had to step away for my own sanity. Fast-forward a year later. Now what?

Like I said, I do miss “blogging”. But if I’m going to try this again, it’s gotta be something that reflects who I am now. And therein lies another challenge I had to overcome. I hit a wall with the blog not only because I’d lost my drive but because I approach blogging quite differently than what has become the “norm”. Namely, putting one’s life on display. Whatever the subject matter, people put parts of their life (sometimes very edited, highly controlled parts) out there for public consumption. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not knocking it. It’s part of what draws us in as a reader and, it’s a legitimate way in which people express themselves. I’m just not willing to do it. At least not in the generally accepted, “normal” way.

Several years ago, I read an interesting article (sorry – can’t remember the source) in which the author said “people don’t follow a blog, they follow a person”. That statement has always stuck me with – mostly because it is true.  With few exceptions (those exceptions being those first pioneer bloggers who’ve stuck around and built a mass following prior to market saturation), the most popular blogs these days are those associated with a “personality”.  Most of the time that personality is tied to an image of a person that readers feel they can connect to.

Given these facts, I thought I could not be a proper blogger because people would be unable to connect with me – this “faceless” person behind a computer screen.  The more I started blogging, however, the more I realized that just wasn’t true. Why? Because some of my favorite bloggers don’t ever show their faces and I, along with many others, have no problem “connecting” with their personalities on the page.

Now that I’ve come to terms with that aspect of blogging, I shoud settle on my subject matter, right? Kind of. I’ve decided not to box myself in by writing to be a “beauty blog”, “lifestyle blog” or “mommy blog” but just to go with the flow. Given that being a mother is large part of who I am at this point of my life, however, I decided that Beauty Isles will take a back seat (for now) as I intend to blog primarily on My Mommy Years which I launched in 2015 when my daughter was born.  Depending on the subject matter, I may occasionally share posts on both sites.

Yeah, so that is where I am at now. I hope that the readers and friends who have joined me on this journey so far continued to do so. To all of you, I say “Hello, I’ve missed you and thank you for all of your support.” Let’s see with 2018. Hopefully, I’ll no longer be a confused blogger. Just a happy one.




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    • shilpashetty86 on January 10, 2018 at 8:21 am
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    Yes,.. It happens,.. I was thinking of starting a blog almost 4 years ago, but my hectic IT job and also my laziness dint gave me the privilege to start my blog. Now I’m in my third trimester, just waiting few more days for my little bundle of joy, so planning to nourish my dream of being a blogger during my 6 months maternity leave,.. Hoping for the best,.. i sued to love your blog posts, yes, i remember following your blog for some giveaway, but later hooked to it, not like commenting on each post, but i used to enjoy most of the reviews. Happy that you will be back to blogging again,.. All the best

      • Kimmy on January 10, 2018 at 10:41 am
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      Thank you for you’re thoughtful words. It really awesome to receive a comment from someone who has been around the blog for a while. Congratulations on your new member of the family. Wishing you heathy, happiness and a safe delivery. And if you do decide to go ahead with starting the blog, I wish you the best of luck with that as well. Feel free to ask any questions you may have. xo

        • shilpashetty86 on January 10, 2018 at 10:50 am
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        Thank you,…

  1. I am so happy to see an update from you, Kimmy, it has been a very long time indeed. I think it happens to all of us, sometimes we just hit a roadblock and don’t feel the same about blogging anymore. I do agree about followers following a person and not the blog and I follow you because of that too. xx

    Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

      • Kimmy on January 10, 2018 at 10:46 am
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      Hey sweetie! YES, it’s been a long, long time. I’ve missed you and your catching up on your blog. Actually one of the things I’m most excited about returning to blogging is getting back into the routine of visiting my favorite bloggers! Thank you for the warm welcome back and it really means a lot to me what you say about following me as a person. Aww shucks. xo ❤️

  2. Wow, what a blast from the past! I think it’s funny how I’m just announcing ending my blog today and you’re back – yay! I must confess that I’ve creeped on your blog from time to time to looking for new posts from you throughout last year. 😛 I can only imagine trying to balance life with a new baby! (she’s adorable by the way!)

    I’m that faceless blogger too. BUT, you can glean a LOT of attributes from your writing style and tidbits that you do share. I truly do not think we suffer from not being able to connect with the blogging community. I’m glad you’ve come to terms with it!

    Your comment about beauty fatigue really resonates with me. That’s what I’m feeling. It doesn’t excite me anymore and since this is a hobby, I’m setting it aside. Who knows, maybe I’ll be back one day?

    Happy New Year and I look forward to your posts coming up! 🙂

  3. I think you were right to take a break if you weren’t feeling passionate about it any more! I think it’s your site so you can post about whatever you want – motherhood, lifestyle. beauty, food whatever & I don’t think you eed separate blogs to do that! Glad to see you back! xx

  4. Nice to hear from you again. Life changes and blogs change with it. My blog was exclusively beauty for almost 4 years and I’ve just diversified into a bit of everything from my life.

      • Kimmy on January 23, 2018 at 10:35 am
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      You are so right! Everything evolves. Glad to hear your blog is reflecting that evolution for you as well. Thank you for sticking around. 🙂

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